PEOPLE MAKE FUN OF HER NOSE

Dear Jellybean,

I'm 13, and for as long as I can remember people have made fun of my nose. All my friends including my boyfriend say it isn't big, but alot more people say its big. Theres this one kid who asked me if my plastic surgeon was drunk. I hate when people make fun of my nose, I have a very low self-esteem and as much as I try to feel good about myself I cant put aside that everyone says i have a big nose, I know I should care what other people think... but I cant help it. Please tell me how I can deal with this and maybe bring my self-esteem up a little!!
-Me

Dear Me,

It's definitely easier to focus on your flaws, instead of what's good about you. That's why it's so easy for you to focus on your nose and feel bad about yourself. You are beautiful the way you are now, and your friends and boyfriend know that about you. Now all you need to do is wake up to your own beauty, and see it for yourself.

The thing is, most people never notice your flaws unless you point them out. As for the others, like that stupid kid who made the rude comment, imagine how miserable he must be inside to make ugly comments like that. If he - or anyone else - makes a comment again about your looks, just say sarcastically, "Wow, I really care what you think," or something like that. Show them you're confident and they can't shake you with their remarks, and they'll end up looking foolish - and not bothering you again.

My suggestion to you, for building your self-esteem, is to make a list of all your good qualities. Yes, you have tons! Then everytime you come into contact with somebody, focus on showing them those good qualities about yourself. Sure, sometimes you'll wish your nose looked different, but everyone has things they don't like about themselves. If you dwell on those things, you will miss out on enjoying the people around you, and meeting new people, because you're too wrapped up in yourself.

So focus on the good and be confident. You have it in you to be a totally confident girl! And remember, no one likes a person who is always complaining about the way they look, so be confident and be yourself. People will like you for you, I promise. And if somebody doesn't, well who cares what they think... they obviously don't deserve to know the real, amazing you!