Dear Jellybean,
Hi! well i have a problem at school with the girls. You see the thing is is that there are different groups and this one group hates me for no reason i guess(people say that they're just jealous) and for some reason they posted me up on they're personal websites and they'll say stuff about me. But there's this one site that has a voting thing which asked "who is the most hated gr.7 girl" well i was one of the people that they posted. I feel really bad...I have never said anything or did something mean since I don't even hang with them there's really no reason they hate me. What's up with that?
Dear Writer,
That is just horrible. I think you should show your mom that website and ask her to come to your school to talk to the principal or your teachers about what can be done. You deserve -and legally have a right to - a healthy school environment that is free from harassment. Don't be embarrassed to speak up, because what those girls are doing is very wrong and it should be stopped. I don't know why they pick on you, usually there is no reason or the reason is totally stupid. Mean girls will pick on anyone, and they just chose you unfortunately.
Is there any possibility of transferring to a different school next year? If you switched schools, you could get a fresh start with a new group of people who don't know you and don't have any wrong ideas about you. It would be great to be able to make a new first impression. Is switching schools possible? Is there another school in your area that you could go to? Talk to your parents about how hard it is to change things and how it's affecting your daily state of mind and mood. Maybe they'll consider switching you to a new school.
My other suggestion is, try to make allies. If you can find someone else - or even a few someones - to team up with in a friendship ring, it's easier to ignore the idiots. I bet there are other people in your school who are looking for friends, and maybe you could team up with some of them. Good places to meet people you have a lot in common with are in clubs or activity groups at school, for example drama, or a sport like swimming or basketball or whatever. Drama is good because it brings out your inner self and can really help you build relationships with the other people. Sports are excellent for giving you confidence, regular exercise and again, building friendships based on common interests and mutual support. These things really are important and I think getting into a school sport or after-school sporting activity would really benefit you, both socially and for yourself.
I know the school year is basically over, and these aren't cure-all answers, but the fact that you and I both know is, some people are jerks and they'll never change. They have ugly hearts, and I know from life experience that one day they will become as ugly on the outside as they are on the inside. You work on being the best person that you can be, build your confidence and focus on getting enjoyment every moment you can out of life. And write me anytime you want to talk, get advice or just vent.
