Dear Jellybean,
I feel like everyone is pressuring me my parents family teachers friends especially because my parents always expect me to get straight a's and since they think that when I get a's they are like oh ya whatever but when my brother who is 2 years older than me gets an a it is the greatest thing in the world. And I feel like I will never have a boyfriend... I say that because I am short and most the guys are like my friends and they always ask me to get girls to like me but like they can be really mean to me like when the boy I liked sort of liked me on of my guy friends talked him out of it. Plus I feel like none of my friends really like me like they are just using me. Please help me,
-Lonely
Dear Lonely,
Whoa, nelly! It sounds like you're stressed about everything! Try to relax and realize that all-or-nothing thinking is going to get you nowhere. People expect you to get A's - that's probably because you're so smart, they're surprised when you don't. That's a good thing. Meanwhile, your brother might have to really struggle to make his grades, because he's not as natually blessed with intelligence as you. Yes, it would be nice if your parents fussed over you more, but that's life. If it really bugs you, you could say, "I'm so proud of myself for getting another A!" Your parents will most probably chime in and tell you that they're proud of you, too.
You will get a boyfriend one day, and being tall or short has nothing to do with it. Just be friendly and nice to people, get to know guys as friends (meaning, don't get obsessed over guys you barely know) and it will happen. Don't be in such a rush anyways - having a BF can be great, but it can also be a major responsibility. There's a lot to be said for being single and having all the time in the world for your friends, and yourself.
If your friends didn't like you, they wouldn't bother with you. Haven't you noticed that people generally do what they want? After all, what could they be using you for that they couldn't get elsewhere? Trust that your friends are around you for a reason. If you feel like you could get better friends, then make an effort to get to know more people by getting involved in new activities, being outgoing, etc. But don't give up on the friends you have now without making an effort. Sometimes it helps to focus on being an amazing friend yourself. Your friends just may treat you the same in return.
