FRIEND STEALING HER CRUSH

Dear Jellybean,

So here's my problem. There's this guy who's had a crush on me for a few years, but we've just become friends in the past year. I've started to like him too, but I wanted to wait until this dance next week to tell him. And I told my friend (from another school) about him, and how much I like him. She wanted to meet him, so I brought her to a football game last night. The two of them met and hit it off really well... A little too well.. She's kind of a flirt, and she REALLY turned on the flirting with him. They even ended up leaving the game and getting something to eat together, just the two of them. Now I think that he likes her, not me. I was really upset about it, and she knew it, but she didn't stop flirting, and she didn't even apologize after the game! I'm so upset with her, and I don't know what to do now. She's one of my really good friends, but she shouldn't have done that, right? I don't know if I can forgive her, especially since I also think that she told him why I was upset. Do you think that I should forgive her? Because it is just a boy... But I feel like she didn't respect me at all. Can you please help me?

Thanks,
Heartbroken

Dear Heartbroken,

I can help you... but only by telling you to go talk to your friend. You can't solve this problem without an honest conversation, because otherwise your hurt feelings will continue, and your friend will be stuck either feeling guilty (if she is), or being clueless that she did anything to hurt you (that could be the case too).

So, call up your friend and ask to hang out one-on-one. Then confront her about what happened. Try not to accuse her of stealing your crush, or let it get into a yelling match. Just calmly explain that your feelings are hurt, because you really liked the guy, and she knew it, and ask her if she can understand why you'd be feeling bad about what happened.

I hope you two can work through this together - but you'll never know until you talk to her. Good luck. I hope everything works out... for everyone.