Dear Jellybean,
I have a serious love triangle problem. Ok, so i dated this guy last year and I just feel like we kinda have like a never-ending connection. We talk all the time, tell each other everything, and hes my total bgf. Now my old feelings for him are coming back, and i like him alot. I think he likes me too cuz we flirt all the time! Sounds like a dream come true rite? Well the problem is he has a gf. And shes one of my bffs. IDK wat 2 do! Pleez help me! He acts like he likes her and tells her he loves her but yet i still feel like he realy likes ME! But I could never break up my friends relationship, but i realy like him and wanna date him. Hes my crush, and shes my friend. What do i do? Pleez help me jellybean!
Love,
Crushed
Dear Crushed,
Oh no, you are THAT ex-girlfriend! The one who can't get over her ex, even when he starts dating someone new. The one who flirts with her ex, even though he's dating a really nice girl, who just happens to be one of your friends. The one who is secretly convinced that her ex is still in love with her, even though he has moved on, started a new relationship, and is trying to make it work.
Honey, I know you care for this guy. But if you value your reputation, any friendships you may have with girls, and a little thing called karma (look it up), you will stop all this nonsense at once.
It's over. Know it. Accept it. Live it. If you were such soulmates, you'd still be together. You broke up. He fell for someone new. She fell for him too. Are you really going to be the evil ex who takes away their happiness, because you selfishly regret ending the relationship, now that it's gone?
Please don't. Be better than that. Stay friends with him, if you can do it without flirting and otherwise undermining his current relationship. If you can't, better to walk away and let him get on with his life. You already had your chance to date him, and it didn't work out. Now he's dating someone new. Maybe someone he has a chance to be really happy with. And you are lurking in the background, casting evil spells over it. Tsk tsk.
If you two are meant to be, someday you might reunite. But if you keep glomming onto him, and trying to mess things up with his GF (come on, you say you would "never" break them up, but that's exactly what you're trying to do), you could end up hated by your friends (who could all end up siding with the BFF you're currently conspiring against) and with a bad rep. Don't risk it. Don't be the evil ex. Get on with your dating life... and get your karma points out of the gutter.
