Dear Jellybean,
I just started dating my friend. I like him a lot and i really think that our relationship can go really far. The only problem is that he is super smart. He pretty much knows everything. Then there's me. I'm just an average girl who only knows what I should know. I think that i'm coming off as a "stupid girl" to him. I really am smart, just not THAT smart. Is there a way that i could solve this? I really don't want to break things off with him. HELP:)
Thank you,
With a smartypants
Dear With a smartypants,
Don't sell yourself short. You ARE good enough for him. First, your boyfriend obviously sees something amazing in you, since he knew you as a friend before dating you. If he even had the smallest idea of you as a "stupid girl", I highly doubt that he'd have moved into a romantic relationship with you - especially since you say he's so smart.
Breaking things off with him now would be a less-than-brilliant move, especially since you seem to be the only one with doubts about whether you're good enough. Instead of running yourself down, spend some time pondering what's great about you. You might not get all A's in school, but I bet you've got plenty of other awesome qualities. Maybe you're a sympathetic listener, a kind-hearted person, knowledgeable about music or movies, good at taking care of animals, a great Boggle player, etc.
The point is, you must have a lot going for you, to have snagged a guy you hold in such high esteem. Believe that you're good enough - he clearly does - and your relationship can move forward. Don't get stuck in thinking your BF is better than you, because nobody is better than anyone else. We're all different. Maybe he's all book smarts, and you're more common sense. The world needs both kinds of people.
Think about this: You can always read more books, or learn more facts, but you can't change who you are deep inside - and that's the person your boyfriend fell for.
